It seems that our weather just can’t decide what it wants to do. A hard freeze one day, record highs two days later. Every warm day makes me yearn to dig in the dirt and go all fanatical at spring decorating for the house, front porch and deck!
(Warning: A bit of soul searching ahead.)
Many of you have noticed that I have been MIA for the last couple of weeks. We have waded knee deep into a period of transition here at the cottage by the creek. Somewhere in the midst of this transition I have had to admit to myself that I am not superwoman. (Don’t you just hate it when reality doesn’t align with your perception!)
My sister and I continue to share the responsibilities of caring for our aging parents. As with most major decisions, attaining the reassurance of having them in an assisted living situation has meant giving up some of the services that we previously paid for when they were living independently. For me this has meant quite a bit more time spent doing their shopping and other assorted general chores. While I happy to help them, it has definitely meant less hours available in my week to keep up with the “normal” schedule I had set up for myself.
The Wildman and I have also recently embarked on a season of intense preparation for a new journey that we have been praying about for several months. We are so excited for this answered prayer and I will share more in the future, but this shift in the Wildman’s attentions has necessitated a change in how we manage our own household.
At first I tried to continue with business as usual, running from one spinning plate to the next to keep all of them rotating at just the right speed to avoid one of them crashing to the ground. After a few weeks of this frenetic activity and refusing to cut back on my self-imposed schedule, I found that my energies were becoming depleted.
The first thing to go by the wayside was exercise and a healthy diet. Cooking is not one of my strong suits and I became more and more discouraged with trying to maintain my unnecessarily high standards of what I should be capable of. It felt like every time I looked at the clock it was already time to think about figuring out what we would be having for dinner. Since I am also a person whose brain doesn’t deal well with lack of regular exercise, my discouragement just became magnified by not being able to find time to work focused movement into my days on a consistent basis.
The second inevitable result of my stubborn refusal to adjust by efforts was a full on smack into a creative wall. One would think after all of these years of dealing with this crazy internally driven personality of mine I would recognize the signs of trouble earlier and make the appropriate adjustments. But that would make too much sense. Right? Whether it was not being able to find the right angle to approach a paper that needed to be written when I was in college, or not being able to think of a new, more inspirational way to present a particular concept as a teacher, creative blocks have always been my very clear and decisive signal that I am operating on overload.
The bottom line is that when I would normally have been faunching at the bit to get spring decorating underway, I instead felt totally lackadaisical regarding anything to do with bunnies or bird’s nests. This behavior was totally out of character for a self-professed bunny addict! It was clear that I needed to make a change.
While I had all sorts of plans swimming around in my head for the fun design and home projects that I wanted to offer on the blog over the next few months, the fact is that my family always gets top billing over blogging. So I put my scheduled blog activities on the back burner and took a much needed break over the last couple of weeks.
You all have been so kind in supporting this little adventure of mine and that kindness is appreciated more than I can express! When I launched Designing Wilder I did so with no preconceived ideas of where it would take me. One thing I learned very quickly is that there are a whole slew of blogging “experts” out their that each have their own list of rules that they will be quick to tell you must be followed to produce a successful blog. Learning to navigate down this path and discern what activities are right for you and your readers is tricky and time consuming to say the least!
One piece of conventional wisdom touted by many blogging “experts” says that reader’s will not support a blog if you are not constantly in their inbox. Since my own inbox can be daunting, I have chosen the path of consistency over volume. While I have been able to post weekly up until this point, I am accepting that this may not always be possible during this time of transition in our lives. Thanks ahead of time for granting me the grace to take myself off a hard and fast weekly posting schedule. After all, what’s better than seeing an email from a friend that you haven’t heard from in bit?
Happily, taking a break totally jump started the creative side of my brain again and I am in full spring decorating mode! The congregation of rabbits and vintage silver piled on my dining room table right now provides the proof! Here’s a peek of the areas I have tackled so far!
Miss Mannequin’s spring ensemble is courtesy of a flea market petticoat!
This giant nest is one of last year’s finds. Of course, I snapped it up since bird’s nests are on my spring essentials list! I wasn’t sure what I would do with it, but am loving it filled to the brim with potted plants!
And, I ask you, who could resist tucking a sweet iron bunny among the foilage? Not me!
The shelves in the grandfather clock got a greatly simplified display this year! I merely covered books with off white parchment paper and stacked them in varying patterns. I happen to adore the color of old book pages (shocking, I know) so I made sure to leave some of the aged pages turned out to add a pleasingly subtle variation in color.
The metal hat is meant to be a planter, but from the moment I saw it I envisioned a rabbit popping out of it. I found one that was the right size this year and he is truly perfection!
Don’t forget to include small details in your vignettes to add your personality to your home! The addition of this old pocket watch to the hat planter gives it a touch of “Mad Hatter” whimsy.
There is still work to be done with the first priority being to clear off the dining room table so that we have a place to eat dinner tonight. You will be so proud of me! I actually already know what I’m making! Small victories feel so good!
Thanks so much to each and every one of you for being part of the Designing Wilder family! And for all of you amazingly awesome, relentlessly self-driven over achievers out there, don’t lose sight of the fact that nobody (other than you) expects you to be perfect! Give yourself a break and be aware of the signals that tell you it is time to slow down and take care of yourself. I would love to pray for you in this endeavor! Just leave me a comment below or drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org. Thanks for doing life with me my sweet friends!
Hugs ’til next time!
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